What We Ask For
Sometimes in life we are so focused on what we don’t have or what we think we want, that we keep asking the wrong questions. It’s as unsatisfying to receive those answer for you as it for me your Tarot Reader. And it’s with that in mind that I’m writing this post to help awaken the deeper meaning for you and help you get to the core or heart center of what you really want to know.
It’s a difficult task, because we are all at very different places in our lives and while I am sure that this message and post will be well received by most and especially those that need to hear this now, there will be some that will scoff… until later. You see, as you click away and go to read something that supports what you think you know… the seed is planted. There is so much that you don’t know that you don’t know. When you allow seeds to be planted, it is only then that you can go back and weed out the things you don’t want.
The core of the message I have for you is really the difference between two kinds of questions: Yes/No or Open Ended.
You see when we ask the universe: “Is [fill in name here] my soul mate” we are asking a present yes/no question. The universe is fluid and always attracting more of different aspects into and through every aspect of our lives. A yes/no question may be answered different tomorrow, next month or next year. The idea or understanding of words like “soul mate” may be different from day to day or month to month.
And, more importantly, a Yes/No questions doesn’t always serve to answer the core or heart-center of the question. For many people asking, “Is [fill in name here] my soul mate?” is a top layer question. The true questions within are more along the lines of… “Will this person make me happy” or “Can I trust this person” or even “Does this person feel the same way about me that I feel about them?” And, so the answer to the question asked, is often provided but interpreted by the listener as the answer to the other various unasked questions.
Open Ended Questions
Asking a question that starts with “how” is very powerful, it allow the universe to place people, moments, opportunities into your path to show you the answer. And allows the gentle lessons of self-love and fulfillness as it helps us understand that our happiness is an inside job. We are only loved to the extend that we love ourselves. It’s true, we teach those that surround us how to love us, by how we show them we love ourselves. Re-framing the “soulmate” question as open ended would be something like… “How will I know if [fill in name] is my soulmate?” or “When will I meet my soulmate?”
Do you see the difference? Do you see how the open ended question allows you to the room to experience more and plant different seeds of awareness and growth?
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